Beauty is not the product of perfection
What is beauty? Is it the color of your hair? The length of your legs? The number on the scale? Well it is, if you choose to believe the media!! The media has taken the concept of beauty and made a blueprint that equals perfection. Beauty is not perfection. It is not something made up on a computer or on the television. To me beauty is defined by your heart. Each person has their own insecurities and this it the cause of the mis perception of beauty. A perfect day for me would consist of not waking up and thinking that I look fat, or that I am having a bad hair day. My day should not be defined by what I look like, but since we are forced in numerous ways to think that this is how we should be, it is. God made each person on this planet to be different and unique. I have redefined my perseption of beauty. When I see a person who appears happy and all smiles, regardless of size, color, age…to me they are beautiful. They radiate happiness and show true beauty by the size or of their smile, or the twinkle in thier eye. There is so many times that I have had a bad day, and gone out and had someone give me a smile or a wave and that brightens my entire day. They are showing love for mankind and appreciation for life and to me that is what true beauty really is.
Cari B.
“The Babylon that Surrounds Us”
Ok, first I need to make this very clear…this is MY OPINION!!!! I am currently taking place in a Bible Study of the book of Daniel in my church. I have been in this Women’s Study class for four weeks now, and I have sat by and tried to not cause any problems with any other student. The longer and more I think about what this class is doing, the more I am getting on edge. I will do my weekly assignments but seeing as how this is my blog, I will speak freely here. This weeks chapter is entitled “Sex, Power, and Intimacy.” Catchy, don’t you think? My Bible study is teaching about the Babylon that surrounds us. The thought that as a Christian I am partaking in CONFORMING to the ways of the world, is really beginning to play a tole on my beliefs. I have really questioned this class and what it is teaching since it began. My biggest problem is that it is a requirement, because I feel as though some of the reading material is very out of line when it comes to my religion. I am not here to step on what others believe but I am here to stand up for what I believe. I do not, and WILL not ever agree with homosexuality, bisexualtiy, or transexuality. They are all SIN. It is stated very clearly in my Bible and if you read the Bible and believe it then you will know where I am coming from on this issue. I don’t feel like there is anything more I need to say because you either agree or disagree and if you DO disagree then I do not care to hear why. I have written on the topic that I choose to write about but all the others I feel as though I have nothing more to discuss. The bible study is enlightning me on the ways of the world and the ways that the devil is getting into people’s hearts and minds and taking over. People are losing touch with why they are even on this planet. God put each individual here…GOD DID!!! You are here for a purpose and maybe this bible study just so happened to be a part of God’s divine intention because he knew that the weeks I was in my Women’s Study class that I would face more than ever things that conflict with my beliefs. I live my life for one purpose and that is to please my God, not to conform to the ways of the world and the thoughts of humans because in all reality these thoughts are not even yours to begin with. All thoughts originate from somewhere and to sit around and talk about the different views of sexuality and blah blah is only stemming from the Devil. Sorry if you don’t like what I am saying but I just felt the need to get it off my chest.
Gender
After reading and taking into consideration all aspects of the chapter on Gender, I have come to the realization that gender is something that is more of a thought than it is a type of person. There are billions of people in the world and as a WORLD SOCIETY we place each and every individual into one of two categories, male or female. The chapter gives much attention to the idea of gender being something that is socialized and depicted by humans. It is a LEARNED theory. When we are children we are brought up knowing that we are either a male or a female and from this, there are complications that arise. These two categories are not only a general outline, but they are deep and have been molded. For some reason as women, we have been categorized further as “caregivers”. We are expected to live full lives as well as take care of “everything” at home. I have a semi emotional side to this because I personally am a caregiver to my husband and daughter because I want to be. I find it to be one of the most important jobs in the whole universe. My job entails, accounting, teaching, nursing, chef, maid, waitress, oil changer, yard worker, and many more. These are the things I wake up to everyday. Nobody tells me to do it, but it is done out of love and respect to my family. The thing I have seen that causes most women, including myself, to get burnt out is that the “Job” becomes fulltime and women lose sight of their own dreams. This almost occurred to me about 2 years ago. I was fed up with being the only helper in the house and felt like all of my efforts were going unnoticed. My husband, would come home and expect the house to be clean and the clothes to be washed and hung, and the dishes to be put away. Where my problem came in to place was when all of my “hard work” seem to not matter to him anymore. It just became EXPECTED. After a lot of self evaluation I realized that there was no reason for him to not help me. So I asked and he was fine with the idea. In my opinion, men need to be told what to do because otherwise they become oblivious to their surroundings. This conclusion came after I went on strike at home. The clothes and dishes piled up and the house was a mess. In no time at all my husband began to see just exactly how much I did around the home which in return taught him to respect “My Job”. This does not always work with every situation but it helped mine. Now I have decided to venture out of the home and start seeking my goals and pursuing the life that “I” have always wanted. My husband has been supportive of me, just as I am for him. Gender being a product of socialization is not a problem as long as both genders can be happy with what they are doing. There must be mutual respect across the board. 
Homophobia
After much debate about this topic, this week has proven to strenghten my faith. I am really beside myself at the thoughts and feelings that people have on this issue. I was speaking to my husband tonight online. I told him about the latest discussion on how someone disagreed with me because they don’t believe in God. I honestly didn’t know what to do at first. I was going to let it go but then after I thought about it, something kept knawing at me to speak up. SO I stated again how I feel and this time I let the class know that I do judge others. So what! We all do. My point is that my hubby and I were talking about all of this and he had a lot of feedback for me. As I have previously mentioned, he is in the Navy. He brought up some good points about the whole situation. I will just show you one point that he made which I thought was a really strong one whether you believe in God or not.
Another thing is this…if you don’t believe in God then whatever…but why is a man and woman’s body made just right for reproducing…? I will tell you why…it is the natural process…for us…now that is not religious that is science…if men where supposed to be with men and women were meant for women then why in the hell can’t men have babies on there own…? It is not natural which means gays are not natural…if we allow this then we are telling the generations to come that people are born with un-natural desires and those desires are okay to act up on…which means years down the road it will be okay to kill each other because we can say that we were born with the desire to kill for pleasure. Is that going to be okay…?
So with him stating that it just even more assures me that it is not something that God intended for us to take part in. I am not here to Bible teach and preach. But God is in my soul and when your soul is of God…that is all you know. I could sit here and side with everyone to make each person happy but that is not reality. Reality to me is that there is only one being that I am to make happy and that is God. Therefore, I do not believe homosexuals should be allowed to get married. I don’t for one minute think that was God’s intentions. I also don’t believe that people are born with Gay tendencies. I think that is a cop-out. The reason in my opinion that Gay people are not wanted in society is not out of fear that they are contagious but because our children are subject to seeing it. What are we as heterosexuals supposed to say to them. I am not ever going to tell my daughter that it is something that is acceptable because I don’t TRULY in my heart believe that it is. Why do you think there is such a debate over this? Because ALL people, whether they are gay or straight, KNOWS that there is something wrong with it. I am sorry if I have offended anybody but this is how I feel and I am proud to say that. Thank you for dropping by!
Cari B.
“Everything happens for a reason.”
Mandatory Contraceptives?
Hello all,
I am up late and I have this knawing thought in my mind and I just can’t seem to swing it. So I am now writing my thoughts down so that hopefully I can get some sleep. I was having a lengthy discussion this evening with a lady and she and I both are PRO LIFE when it comes to abortion. Well that is what our topic was. So the more she and I discussed it and how, from what I inderstand, feminist have the stance that it should be a choice of the said pregnant mother whether or not to abort the child that she is carrying. So the more I thought about it I began to come up with some ideas that I thought I would share with you. How about instead of worrying so much about what to do after you get pregnant, why not start before you get pregnant. So I came up with this. I think that starting in the 8th grade, that is should be MANDATORY STATE ISSUED that all girls should receive an IUD. I know that there are people out there who would beg to differ and say that you can’t do that because it will only encourage the kids to have more sex. We can either pretend that kids aren’t having sex or we can go by what we know which is that whether they are safe from pregnancy or not at least that would have more of a chance of not getting pregnant. The biggest issue that I believe we are being faced with is that these Kids are having Kids. They drop out of school and before you know have a very small future ahead of them. The majority of these girls would probably not drop out if they just weren’t getting pregnant. What do you think….Mandatory contraceptives? I say IUD because they have the least side effects and are rated to be the best. 99.9% effective. By the way I have one, and I LOVE it!
Cari B.
“Everything happens for a reason.”
