Cari B’s Blog

The word work is defined as the process in which one exerts physical or mental efforts in order to do, make, or accomplish something, or make somebody do this. Of course it also defined as someone who has paid employment at a job. I bring this up to say this, anything that you do can be considered work and it rightfully should be considered work. However, I cannot say that only women are the ones who suffer from this “house chores” problem. For the first few years of my marriage, my husband was in the military and gone all the time. I had no children and was only 17 years old at the time. I actually came from a family that allowed me to be spoiled rotten; so, I never had a sense of work ethics or cleanliness. It was not that I was a dirty type of person, but I had just never had to wash my own dishes, or take out the trash, go get the mail,wash my clothes, mke my bed or sweep the floor, I think you get the point. My absolutely LOVED being a mother and nurturer, but she just ddn’t instill it into my sister and I. So when I was out in California living with my husband, first time away from home, I had to learn to do what she did. The funniest thing about the lesson this week is that it is saying men grow up expecting someone to do the housework for them, but I grow up with the same idea. So when my husband and I got together the result were quiet funny. I expected him to be picking up after me and he expected the same. After numerous arguments and disagreements on whose “job” was what, we compromised and understand now that it is not something that just one person should have to do because there is to much work. I mean really think about it. Maybe some of you do these things, and more power to you. How could one person wake up in the morning and start her day with a load of dishes and then move onto a load of laundry, all the while seperating garbage for trash pickup and then going through each individual room and beginning the daily cleanup of each room and in the meantime, get the kids ready for school, which in itself requires: a bath, breafast, clothes (may need ironing or changing if they get them dirty before you leave), getting their folders together, as well as getting your self dressed, then dropping everything you are doing and load them up in the car and take them to school. I mean I am tired just thinking about it all and that has all happened before 9 in the morning. It is just not something that anybody, male or female should be doing alone. It can become overwhelming and sooner or later actually depress you. Anyways, that is enough of my spill on that, but I will leave you with this, if you are one of those women, you really need to sit down and tell your husband or significant other that you are tired and need help. If they cannot understand where you are coming from then they are selfish.

Cari B.