Cari B’s Blog

THE EVOLUTION OF BEAUTY THROUGH THE YEARS

Ok, first I need to make this very clear…this is MY OPINION!!!! I am currently taking place in a Bible Study of the book of Daniel in my church. I have been in this Women’s Study class for four weeks now, and I have sat by and tried to not cause any problems with any other student. The longer and more I think about what this class is doing, the more I am getting on edge. I will do my weekly assignments but seeing as how this is my blog, I will speak freely here. This weeks chapter is entitled “Sex, Power, and Intimacy.” Catchy, don’t you think? My Bible study is teaching about the Babylon that surrounds us. The thought that as a Christian I am partaking in CONFORMING to the ways of the world, is really beginning to play a tole on my beliefs. I have really questioned this class and what it is teaching since it began. My biggest problem is that it is a requirement, because I feel as though some of the reading material is very out of line when it comes to my religion. I am not here to step on what others believe but I am here to stand up for what I believe. I do not, and WILL not ever agree with homosexuality, bisexualtiy, or transexuality. They are all SIN. It is stated very clearly in my Bible and if you read the Bible and believe it then you will know where I am coming from on this issue. I don’t feel like there is anything more I need to say because you either agree or disagree and if you DO disagree then I do not care to hear why. I have written on the topic that I choose to write about but all the others I feel as though I have nothing more to discuss. The bible study is enlightning me on the ways of the world and the ways that the devil is getting into people’s hearts and minds and taking over. People are losing touch with why they are even on this planet. God put each individual here…GOD DID!!! You are here for a purpose and maybe this bible study just so happened to be a part of God’s divine intention because he knew that the weeks I was in my Women’s Study class that I would face more than ever things that conflict with my beliefs. I live my life for one purpose and that is to please my God, not to conform to the ways of the world and the thoughts of humans because in all reality these thoughts are not even yours to begin with. All thoughts originate from somewhere and to sit around and talk about the different views of sexuality and blah blah is only stemming from the Devil. Sorry if you don’t like what I am saying but I just felt the need to get it off my chest.

After reading and taking into consideration all aspects of the chapter on Gender, I have come to the realization that gender is something that is more of a thought than it is a type of person. There are billions of people in the world and as a WORLD SOCIETY we place each and every individual into one of two categories, male or female. The chapter gives much attention to the idea of gender being something that is socialized and depicted by humans. It is a LEARNED theory. When we are children we are brought up knowing that we are either a male or a female and from this, there are complications that arise. These two categories are not only a general outline, but they are deep and have been molded. For some reason as women, we have been categorized further as “caregivers”. We are expected to live full lives as well as take care of “everything” at home. I have a semi emotional side to this because I personally am a caregiver to my husband and daughter because I want to be. I find it to be one of the most important jobs in the whole universe. My job entails, accounting, teaching, nursing, chef, maid, waitress, oil changer, yard worker, and many more. These are the things I wake up to everyday. Nobody tells me to do it, but it is done out of love and respect to my family. The thing I have seen that causes most women, including myself, to get burnt out is that the “Job” becomes fulltime and women lose sight of their own dreams. This almost occurred to me about 2 years ago. I was fed up with being the only helper in the house and felt like all of my efforts were going unnoticed. My husband, would come home and expect the house to be clean and the clothes to be washed and hung, and the dishes to be put away. Where my problem came in to place was when all of my “hard work” seem to not matter to him anymore. It just became EXPECTED. After a lot of self evaluation I realized that there was no reason for him to not help me. So I asked and he was fine with the idea. In my opinion, men need to be told what to do because otherwise they become oblivious to their surroundings. This conclusion came after I went on strike at home. The clothes and dishes piled up and the house was a mess. In no time at all my husband began to see just exactly how much I did around the home which in return taught him to respect “My Job”. This does not always work with every situation but it helped mine. Now I have decided to venture out of the home and start seeking my goals and pursuing the life that “I” have always wanted. My husband has been supportive of me, just as I am for him. Gender being a product of socialization is not a problem as long as both genders can be happy with what they are doing. There must be mutual respect across the board.

After much debate about this topic, this week has proven to strenghten my faith. I am really beside myself at the thoughts and feelings that people have on this issue. I was speaking to my husband tonight online. I told him about the latest discussion on how someone disagreed with me because they don’t believe in God. I honestly didn’t know what to do at first. I was going to let it go but then after I thought about it, something kept knawing at me to speak up. SO I stated again how I feel and this time I let the class know that I do judge others. So what! We all do. My point is that my hubby and I were talking about all of this and he had a lot of feedback for me. As I have previously mentioned, he is in the Navy. He brought up some good points about the whole situation. I will just show you one point that he made which I thought was a really strong one whether you believe in God or not.

“Everything happens for a reason.”

Hello all,

      I am up late and I have this knawing thought in my mind and I just can’t seem to swing it.  So I am now writing my thoughts down so that hopefully I can get some sleep.  I was having a lengthy discussion this evening with a lady and she and I both are PRO LIFE when it comes to abortion.  Well that is what our topic was.  So the more she and I discussed it and how, from what I inderstand, feminist have the stance that it should be a choice of the said pregnant mother whether or not to abort the child that she is carrying.  So the more I thought about it I began to come up with some ideas that I thought I would share with you.  How about instead of worrying so much about what to do after you get pregnant, why not start before you get pregnant.  So I came up with this.  I think that starting in the 8th grade, that is should be MANDATORY STATE ISSUED that all girls should receive an IUD.  I know that there are people out there who would beg to differ and say that you can’t do that because it will only encourage the kids to have more sex.  We can either pretend that kids aren’t having sex or we can go by what we know which is that whether they are safe from pregnancy or not at least that would have more of a chance of not getting pregnant.  The biggest issue that I believe we are being faced with is that these Kids are having Kids.  They drop out of school and before you know have a very small future ahead of them.  The majority of these girls would probably not drop out if they just weren’t getting pregnant.  What do you think….Mandatory contraceptives?  I say IUD because they have the least side effects and are rated to be the best.  99.9% effective.  By the way I have one, and I LOVE it!  

Cari B.

“Everything happens for a reason.” 

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I have read the material assigned for the week and just wanted to elaborate on an issue that I brought up on the dicussion board. I was fortunate enough to have my mother spend my childhood years with me everyday.  She was diagnosed with heart disease and doctors orders required her to quit her job.  My mother was about 35 years older than I am and 10 years older than my dad.  Infact, she and my dad adopted me when I was 6 weeks old.  Well actually they adopted me before I was ever born but due to the circumstances of my health at birth I was not available for them to take me home until I was 6 weeks old.  The doctors did not believe that my mother and father could have children so that decided to go ahead and adopt me.  WISE DECISION!!!  Then after I was 3 years old they found out that my mother was pregnant.  Another girl.  My family never really treated me as though I wasn’t apart of them directly.  I always felt wanted and loved.  Like I said, my mother was with my sister and I on a daily basis and the two of us girls were the center of her world.  I consider myself to be very lucky to have been able to learn from such an inspiring woman.  My mother died in 2005 due to complications from pancreatic cancer.  Looking back over her life and all the many things she stood for and was a part of is so amazing.  I am truley blessed to have had someone of such spirit and grace in my life.  Anytime someone made me feel inferior to them, my mother would tell me to not worry about it because one day I would show them what’s what.  My mother had a phrase that she would tell me anytime that I had a situation at hand.  She would say, ”Everything happens for a reason.”  Indeed it does.  My poinnt that I am trying to make is that my mother taught me from the very beginning that God sees no color, no sex, and no size.  There is nothing in this world that I can’t accomplish.  She told me that if I reach for the stars, there is enough out there so eventually I would catch one. :) She was quiet witty.  I needed her in my life and it is thanks to her that I am the woman that sits here before you.  I know what I want and I know how to get it.  She taught me to fight for what I believe in and never let anyone bring me down.      

Cari B.

“Everything Happens For A Reason.”

Bobby, my husband, called today from Hong Kong. How exciting!!! This is his 3rd and last time there. This Navy thing is almost over. I can’t wait. I hate being away from him. He was calling yesterday to beg for my permission to purchase a $450 completley tailored suit. WHAT??? My wedding dress didn’t even cost that much. Of course I refuse to be held responsible for him feeling bad if he doesn’t get it. So I left the choice up to him. By the way…he bought one last time for the same amount and has only worn it 2 times. It is ridiculous but we all make ridiculous pruchases. Whatever makes you happy in life and keeps you moving foward. He emailed me earlier and said that he has decided to hold off on the suit and just wait. THANK GOD!!! So my subtle comments to him actually worked. Now I can put the money were it belongs…in the savings account.